You all remember Mr. Breezy, right?
No? Here’s the brief run down: We were supposed to have a date and the dude never called to confirm. By 3pm on the day of our date, I still hadn’t heard from him. So, I just made other plans. After a weird text exchange, I didn’t hear from him again.
That was two weeks ago.
I logged on tonight to post about the vaginasaurus and had this IM conversation:
Mr. Breezy: sup?
Jami: hi
Mr. Breezy: so what have u been up to
Jami : not much
Jami : working
Mr. Breezy: u sound excited about it
Jami : i’m a little perplexed to hear from you
Jami : lol(Insert six or seven minute pause here. This is where a more mature person might have ended the conversation… But I wanted to poke and prod my fodder, you know… lol. Don’t judge me! I play a bitch on the internet! ANYWAY…)
Jami : nothing to say?
Mr. Breezy: well why would you?
Jami : why would i what?
Mr. Breezy: be lil perplexed
Jami : because i haven’t spoken to you in two weeks…
Jami : because when we last spoke it was some lame cop-out over text messaging…
Jami : because we were supposed to have plans and then nothing.ever.happened.
Jami : i just assumed i wouldn’t hear from you again
Jami : and then two weeks later, you message me “sup”
Jami : that’s a little strange
Mr. Breezy: LOL
Mr. Breezy: nah not that serious
Jami : hrm
Jami : well i was a bit offended by how you handled things
Jami : sort of serious on this end
Mr. Breezy: well i was offended by how you handled things as well
Jami : so…
Jami : why are you contacting me then?
Jami : we clearly have a different set of expectations for a partner than what either one of us can fulfill
Mr. Breezy: lol thats cool well my bad for contacting you
Jami : alright
Jami : best of luck to you
Mr. Breezy : cool
Seriously. Ok, I know I was a little (read: a lot probably) bitchy, but OMG!
Dude. Why do men do this? Why do they always try to keep one foot in the door? Do they think they can just sort of patch things up and keep you in the wings as a “maybe”? This is SO not the first guy to do something like this…
I remember when I broke up with my last-last-boyfriend, we’ll call him the “Big Time Republican” (Seriously, that’s how he would introduce himself. Gag. With air quotes and everything!). We dated for about eight months and after we broke up, he would email me like CLOCK WORK every four weeks just to check on me… See how I was doing… He would go on and on about what was going on his life and make sure to include that he was either single or dating or whatever. He stopped writing when I started dating a black man, lol.
As an aside – can you believe I ever dated a Republican? OMG. Me neither?! It was a total rebound thing after my divorce. Some women go buck-wild, fucking every dude they see. I rebelled against myself by dating a (air quotes) Republican.
I’m a fairly gracious person (though, if you don’t know me personally, I understand that it might be hard to believe from just reading this blog, lol. I digress…) but when I’m ready to shut the door, I just shut it. With the exception of a few long term relationships, I don’t generally keep in touch with someone it hasn’t worked out with. I don’t call to catch up. I don’t want to see how they’re doing. I just don’t.
You’re either in my life or you’re not. I thought I was pretty clear with this guy that totally dropping the ball on DATE NIGHT meant that he was out. I thought he understood that as well, being that he didn’t call me or text me or anything for two weeks.
I am just dumbfounded by this kind of behavior! Are there any man readers out there who care to explain this to me??
